Run away, as fast as you can. An essay by Yoana from Life without rules blog

The first meetings are like a job interview. You try to learn as much about the man as you can ,to see if you have a future with him. If you can listen and pay attention to the important details, you do not need any research questions. Just listen his favourite themes. If these are among them, you will be better without that man.

 His ex-girlfriend
Ex relationships in each case are misleading. If he does not stop analyzing his life at the date, it is an alert signal. It seems as if it’s anchored in his previous relationship. Are you sure you want to listen to him how does he complain about his ex, and you to turn into a shoulder ,on which he to cry?

Material girls
“The only goal of all women is to seduce a rich man and use his credit card”. If he does not stop repeating this – it’s not for you. This may indicate that he is greedy, and also you must constantly prove that you are not interested from “his wallet”.

His mother
To lovе your mother is wonderful, but there must be boundaries in demonstration, especially during the first date. May be for you will be difficult to build a relationship ,in which she does not interfere. Think about whether you want to have a relationship with a man for whom his mother’s word is on first place.

His muscles
Does he try too much to demonstrate that he is physically strong in front of you? He has telling you stories about how he’s hit someone? This does not mean, that he will be aggressive to you, but this behavior can still cause individual problems.

Physical beauty
A man who does not stop talking to you about what would be perfect woman, what must her shapes should be and how she should dress – it’s not for you. It’s better not to be with this guy because he’s trying to change you to fit his idea.

Of course we should try to accept the small deficiencies of the man beside us. Still no one is perfect. But these shortcomings are not small in importance. On the contrary! For this, if you come across a man with any of these features, you better run…far!

You have the right to move on


An essay by Jo for


You have the right to move on and to leave behind you what do not bring you happiness. You have the right to leave behind you a friend who always disappoint you. You have the right to move on.

Although ,that often teach us to swallow. To accept. To withhold and to turn our backs on ourselves to avoid conflict. But why are you silent when someone offends you? Why to stay with someone who hurt you? Why put up with an attitude that you not deserve? You do not have to do that. You needs to move on. And to get rid of everything that weighs on your heart. To get rid the past that brings you pain every time ,when you look back. To get rid the thoughts ,who they discourage. To get rid of everything that pulls you back. You have the right to pull out of your life ,the people who only take from you ,without giving you anything. People who want you to be with them, but they are never to you. People who love you ,but only on words.

You have to change your life. Make it on the way ,that you want and deserve. You do not owe anything to anyone. You owe it to yourself.

© 2017 essay and photo by / Jo – all rights reserved
Reprinting with the courtesy from Webverlag – source